Why is your child disobedient? Get to know the reasons and solutions!
Your child is stubborn and disobedient? This is undoubtedly upsetting you. Of course, you want them to get rid of this quality. Which is why it’s important to know the reasons making them stubborn and disobedient. Here’s how you can find the best ways to deal with them.
This is why your child is stubborn and disobedient
Reasons your child is stubborn and disobedient
- Before age 2: Your child may be stubborn and refuse to stop doing something even if you ask them to. This is because they’re learning new skills and they want to do it repeatedly till they master it.
- Between age 2 and 3: Your child may refuse to obey you for reasons like proving themselves, their confidence and their independence. It’s normal.
- Between age 3 and 5: Your child starts to understand complex instructions, like “wear your jacket and bring me my handbag”. However, they may not obey immediately because they need it to be repeated to them to understand it.
How to deal with them?
- Before asking your child to do something, make sure you have their attention. For example, stand before them with your hands on their shoulders and talk to them.
- Ask them to repeat what you said or ask a question about it. This way they can get used to listening to what you say and feeling responsible and respected.
- Sometimes, they may refuse to obey because they want to make their own decision. Don’t deprive them of the freedom of choice. Instead of telling them, for example, “put your building blocks in the box”, ask them “do you want to start putting away the red blocks or the blue blocks?”.
- Don’t back off if you ask them to do something and they refuse. However, you should find a way to make them do what you ask.
- Show that you’re understanding. If they refuse to bathe, for example, tell them “I know you want to play, but it’s bath time, you can play tomorrow”.
- Set the rules they should not break, like bedtime, and others they may break every now and then, like replacing the pyjamas you choose for them for others they prefer.
- Use the useful method of 1-2-3. Let your little one know your request then tell them you’ll count to 3 before taking the necessary action. Do this if they disobey you.
- If they resort to crying and screaming to get something, make sure you don’t respond to their request. They’ll get used to it and insist on being stubborn.