You’re teaching your child the basics of life. You teach them how to eat, clean themselves, draw, play, ride a bike, and be polite. But how do you feel about teaching them something that will benefit them greatly in life and open the doors of success to them? Teach them early how to be optimistic, and they’ll want to grow up and achieve their dreams. Teach them early not to be afraid of the future or feel helpless in the face of life’s challenges.
Nourish their curiosity; your child has a thirst for discovering everything they touch and taste around them. Let them experiment for themselves; their feeling of satisfaction in being able to find out what they want to know is key to encouraging their optimism. Don’t leave them alone in this discovery process, however; if they face an obstacle they can’t solve, they may lose interest and doubt their intelligence.
Answer their questions, invite them to read books filled with adventures, travel with them to new places, and take them to visit museums and art exhibitions; this will prove to them that life is full of surprises.
Don’t place too much importance on their mistakes; your child, when they’re discovering new things, will also discover the limits of their capabilities. Help them overcome failure; otherwise, they’ll feel helpless and will get used to giving up when they face even the smallest difficulty.
Make sure they know you trust them, and stay by their side without carrying out their task for them. When they fail, encourage them to try again, and when they succeed, encourage and applaud them.
A pessimistic child often tends toward isolation, so encourage them to be social, mingle with others, and build friendships; this will make them feel safe and give them the sense that they’re not alone in life and can always rely on friends.
Don’t be dramatic or tragic in front of them if you have a problem at home or work, but tell them about it with a smile. For example, you could say: “I have a big problem at work, but I’ll take care of it! For every problem, there’s a solution!”
Repeat the following sentences in front of them: “It’s okay if you make mistakes; we all make mistakes. The important thing is for us to try again,” “Failure is temporary,” and “Nothing’s perfect.”