Now you’re pregnant, and you experience each stage of your pregnancy with pleasure and anticipation. Of course. But it’s best if your husband shares this experience and supports you after the delivery. Maybe you can encourage him in this. Don’t be surprised; this is essential. Here are some tips:
9 Months Side by Side
Are you carrying the burden of the months of pregnancy by yourself? That’s a mistake. It’s important that your husband share this stage with you for these reasons:
- Because it’s a new stage in your life.
- Because you need him to understand your feelings and make you feel safe.
- Because he’s also feeling the changes happening in your lives.
- Talk about it. Why not? Keep him informed about what you’re feeling, both physically and psychologically.
- When your foetus moves, tell him. That will bring them closer together.
- Don’t think that your husband putting his hand on your belly is unimportant. Encourage him to do so. That will boost communication between him and his child, especially when the foetus moves.
- Always tell him about developments in the state of your health and the state of the foetus. This is essential; don’t forget it.
- You will not bother him if you ask him to perform some tasks. For example, buying a baby’s bed… but be careful! Ask nicely.
- Insist that he stay by your side for the birth. That will reassure you and will make the process less difficult.
- Despite all of this, you may notice that your husband is not showing interest in your pregnancy. What should you do? Don’t worry. He is perhaps waiting for the birth of the baby. At that moment, everything will change, and he will begin to play his role as father.
Your life will change after the birth of your child. A newborn needs a great deal of attention. But your husband can’t keep his distance; he should feel as though he has a part in these changes. How can you help him?
- When your child is sleeping, spend some time with him and discuss your new life. Let him know that he’s the reason you feel strong and safe.
- Be straightforward and ask him to help take care of your baby. For example, invite him to hold them if they’re crying.
- Don’t criticise how he takes care of the baby. This could push him to abandon his duties. Watch out.
- And of course, don’t let your time as a couple fall by the wayside. Ultimately, you’ll just have to rearrange your lives.