Do you want your child to learn positive thinking? You can help them starting from their early years. This includes pushing them towards getting rid of the permanent state of discontent and dissatisfaction as well as the negative judgment of everything. To this end you need to follow some important tips.
How to make your child a positive person
Talk to them positively
If you want to teach your child to think positively, be aware of the words you use when talking to them. If they start yelling, for example, do not tell them: “Don’t shout,”, but “talk gently or quietly.”, and instead of telling them, “Don’t run,” ask them to walk quietly.
After repeating this as time passes, they can get used to dealing with others positively.
Remember that you are the role model for your child. If you talk to them gently and show optimism and affection in dealing with events and people, there’s no doubt they will notice that and follow it.
Judge their actions and not their personality
If your child makes a mistake, don’t use negative words to describe them but rather to describe their actions. For example, don’t say “you are impolite” or “you are messy”, say “what you’ve done is disrespectful or messy.” If they break their brother’s toy, don’t say “you’re a bad boy”, say “you’ve broken your brother’s toy and that’s a bad thing.”
Do not forget that bad judgments may weaken their self-confidence and self-esteem. Remember that they make mistakes just like you do.
Encourage them to behave positively
Your child may exhibit some negative behaviors to draw your attention and interest only.
That’s why you shouldn’t pay attention to their small mistakes as this may make them repeat such behaviors.
On the other hand, focus on their positive actions and congratulate them so they feel proud and repeat them. If they tidy up their room, say, “thank you, you’ve helped me a lot.” Thanks and congratulations are more important than you think because they build their self-confidence and enhance their positive abilities.
However, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t punish them if they make a mistake. It is also important to do so in an effective and useful manner.