Their head is as unyielding as a rock; their favorite word is “no,” their opinions are fixed, and they refuse help… These sentences describe the situation of most parents who suffer from their children’s stubbornness. But is children’s stubbornness an attribute or a defect? And is it imprinted on them at birth or an acquired habit that can be changed or softened? Here are some facts and tips for treating your child’s stubbornness.
Sometimes stubbornness is a part of your child’s personality, and sometimes it’s just a way of establishing their independent personality and venting about things that bother them. In both cases, it’s necessary to deal with it correctly in order to ensure their discipline. Listen to them calmly and show them how to behave in an acceptable manner.
Stubbornness begins at around two years old, when your child enters into a stage called “opposition.” This period is very difficult for you because your child will say “no” to everything and will refuse your help. The opposition stage is positive because it leads to their development and desire to prove their differences and impose their own taste.
Children love to discover things and don’t plan to create problems. For this reason, if you notice that your child is bent on holding fragile objects, like a vase, or does not move away from kitchen drawers that contain sharp objects like knives, don’t scold them but change the location of these items and pad sharp and dangerous things like the edge of the table and the electrical sockets.
Make sure they hear the word “yes.” Most stubborn children only hear the word “no” from their parents throughout the day. “Don’t open the drawers,” “Don’t play with the electrical tape,” etc. When you prepare your home to be safe for your child, it’s easy to say “yes” and allow them to expand their horizons and discover everything they want.
Let them go out of the house, practice activities they love, and have fun in the bath. These activities help them get rid of their energy, which helps them sleep well and makes them much calmer and less stubborn.
Draw their attention to things they love. For example—are you visiting your friend with them and they’re determined to play with the electrical plug? Take their favorite ball out of your bag and call them to play with it. There is a good chance that the electrical plug will be forgotten and they’ll become preoccupied with their game.