If a stranger speaks to them, your child looks down and doesn’t answer the questions being asked. Know that they’re shy, but don’t look at it as an insurmountable problem. Actually, there are certain methods you can use to help them overcome their shyness.
What Are Their Signs of Shyness?
- They hide behind you when you meet a stranger or always holds your hand.
- They look at the ground when someone talks to them. They do this, for example, if a salesperson offers them a piece of candy to treat them.
- They don’t initiate or go towards another child to play with them.
- They speak quietly, so it’s impossible to understand a lot of what they say.
What Are the Reasons?
- Their character: Your child may have been born shy because of genetics.
- Experiences: Your child may have turned shy as a result of facing upsetting situations, like being scolded at school or by a stranger.
- Contagion: Are you shy? Your child can adopt that shyness, too.
- Scolding: Be careful not to scold your child constantly; it makes them fear confrontation, lose self-confidence, and become shy.
How Can You Help Them?
- Remember not to force them to play with children you choose. The solution is to invite relatives with children the same age to your home.
- Don’t forget to praise them if they’re successful in something.
- Give them space to try out new experiences and show off their talents.
- Encourage them to make decisions in some situations. Ask them, for example, “What are we eating today?” This will contribute to strengthening their character.
- Make up stories about shy children who run into problems. This will push your child to try to help them and find solutions.
- The most important step is to show your constant love and patience. Support will help them shed their shyness.
Our Advice to You
- Don’t get in the way of your child’s resolve. For example, don’t say “You can’t do that,” but “Try it; you can do it!”
- Don’t talk to them constantly about their shyness. This will only make it worse.
- Encourage them to practice some activities like sports, painting, handicrafts, or watching plays.