Your child loves to discover and learn everything, so it’s not strange that they use bad words. They’re imitating someone, but rest assured, they don’t know the meanings of the words; it’s just a habit. You can help them move on, but… be smart.
Bad Words: An Inevitable Phase
The story of obscene words starts at home. A family member may have spoken them carelessly as a reaction to some problem.
- Your child uses bad words when they’re facing an upsetting situation; they believe it’s the appropriate response to that situation.
- Bad words are considered an inevitable phase for your child at that age. They’re a part of their psychological development.
- Be aware that they may say bad words sometimes to get your attention.
- They may believe that it makes them look like adults.
How Should You Act?
The first thing you should know is that showing your anger when your child uses bad words is the wrong course of action. It could make them cling more tightly to those words and repeat them.
- Explain to them clearly that the meaning of those words isn’t good and that they upset other people.
- Suggest that they exchange them for pleasant words.
- Teach them to apologize to anyone they say these words to, and of course, be an example they can imitate. If you carelessly let slip an obscene word, it’s your turn to apologize.
- Be careful not to smile if your child says a bad word. That reaction from you will push them to repeat it.
- Look shocked if they say an obscene word and caution them: “Watch out! That’s a big no-no!”
- Don’t talk to any friends or relatives about their bad words when they can hear you; it will make them think that swearing will make them look important to other people.
A Pro Tip
Your child may insist on saying bad words in spite of being told not to. This is because they can’t control their temper; you notice that they sometimes scream, get angry, and jump up and down dramatically. Hence the use of these words to express their feelings. In this case, it’s best to consult a psychologist.