How Do You Behave with Them?
They refuse to go to sleep, insist on having chocolate, don’t want to wear the shirt you picked out for them, and so on. Even though they’re young, your child has whims that bother you. It’s all right; all children between ages 1.5 and 4 have these caprices, which express their desire to prove themselves. Here are some tips to help you deal with them:
- Your child realizes that they are your weak point and that you won’t be able to bear seeing them cry. It’s essential, then, to have courage and be firm with them.
- They also realize that you’re upset by their screaming, which causes headaches, so don’t yield to this effective weapon just to get some calm; they’ll just do it again—and then ten more times.
- Tell them ahead of time what you plan to do so that they’re mentally prepared. Say, “We’re going to do some shopping together, but we will not buy sweets because we have some at home.”
- Suggest something to them that’s different from the subject of their whim. Say, “We won’t buy chocolate, but you can pick out your favorite fruit juice.”
- Turn their attention to another subject. Tell them about your childhood; say, “I refused to obey my mama, too, but then I came back and did what she asked without crying.” Your child will be happy to know that once you were little like them.
- Explain to them why you’re refusing in a clear and logical way, to convince them and make them feel that you won’t change your mind when they insist. Tell them, for example, that you won’t buy that toy for them because they got a similar one from their uncle yesterday.
- Come to an agreement with your husband on the subject. If you tell your child no, your husband should not tell them yes.
- When they start yelling, try to calm them down and continue speaking to them softly. This way, they’ll understand that screaming won’t throw you off.
If they keep screaming, inform them that their behavior is unacceptable and that they’ll receive moral punishments, like having things they like taken away (television, picnics, etc). If they don’t give in, go through with your punishment so that they understand that you won’t go easy on them again…