It’s natural for your child to be jealous. They think the whole world revolves around them and that their needs alone are the most important, and they refuse the idea that you care about their younger sibling. Here are some tips for you to help move past this difficult phase with minimal damage.
- When their sibling is born, your toddler may begin to act like a baby: they’ll cry, pee their pants, insist on wearing diapers, and speak like a baby. It’s a natural stage and up to you to give your child time and attention and not hesitate to show your love for them.
- Jealousy can be negative, as it pushes your child into undesirable behavior. They will get angry, lie, and smash toys in revenge. They may also bite their younger sibling, get sad, isolate themselves, and perhaps stick too closely to you or not obey you.
- Jealousy could be positive, as it encourages your child to surpass others and be the best. It may also make them empathize with children who are feeling jealous about things they’ve already experienced.
- Know that every child has special qualities, strong points, and weaknesses, so don’t compare your children in order not to shake their self-confidence, stir up competition between them, and increase feelings of jealousy. Avoid sentences like “Look how clever your brother is.”
- Is your child jealous of their sibling and making a comparison between the two of them? We recommend that you focus on their strong points to make them understand that every person has special qualities in life, and there’s no need for jealousy. Tell them, for example: “You’re great at drawing, and your brother’s great at reading.”
- Their jealousy may be a reason for them to learn habits like saving. For example, is your son jealous of his friend, who bought a new bike? Advise him to buy a coin bank and save money for buying a bike.
Show them the advantages of sharing things with others. For example, tell them, “If you give me half of your apple, I will give you half my candy” or “How would you feel about playing with your brother’s ball and giving him your bike in the meanwhile?”