It happens a lot … Your child comes to see you in bed at night, crying and wanting to sleep next to you. Emotion could push you to give in to them, but you know that’s a mistake and that they need to go back to their room. Of course, you’re wondering about how to deal with the problem. You’ll be surprised—the solution isn’t hard.
Why Do They Come See You in Bed?
- When they decide to visit your room at night, your child is looking for safety. They feel isolated; nighttime is a difficult time of separation from you.
- They may do this because of changes occurring in their life, like starting to go to daycare or the birth of a new baby in the family.
What Do You Do?
It’s not worth stressing out over; just be calm and smart about it:
- Talk to your child and tell them that each of you have your own special beds. Use words they can understand easily.
- Follow this rule without wavering. If you break it even once, your child will think that they can take advantage of your emotions in the future and come sleep in your room every night.
- If they come, get out of bed to take them back to their room.
- It’s okay to sit beside them for a few minutes if that will make them feel comfortable.
- Dim lamplight, a toy or gentle music might help them get back to sleep.
5 Helpful Tips
- To ensure that your child sleeps quietly in their room, turn on a dim lamp and leave the door to their room open. This reassures them.
- If they sleep the whole night in their room, don’t forget to reward them the next day. How about a sticker they like for their sticker chart?
- Calm and avoiding stress and anger in this case is absolutely essential. Always remember that.
Don’t Give Up
Sometimes you feel exhausted and would prefer to welcome your child into your bed instead of getting up to take them back to their room. Still, you shouldn’t give up; if you do, your child won’t become brave and independent. Nonetheless, they can benefit from a few exceptions. For example, agree to let them sleep in your bed in the morning or when they’re sick.