At school, your child stays alone. On the field, they stand down and don’t play with their friends. They are quieter than they need to be, shy, and very reserved, and they find it difficult to mix with their peers. You always feel they’re upset and being silently tortured. Are you wondering whether they’re introverted and worrying about them? First, here are some signs that will help you be sure whether your child is introverted around others.
- Does loud noise upset your child? Do they get tired and stressed in crowded places? Do they want to go home immediately and sit alone in their room?
- Do they prefer playing alone, doing solitary things like drawing, coloring, and building things with Legos, and not get bored after hours playing alone in their room?
- Do they take time to think when you ask them questions, even if your question doesn’t require much thought (e.g., “What do you want to eat, a hamburger or a pizza?”), and get upset when you rush them to answer?
- Do they get upset when you give them big hugs and kiss and cuddle them, and do they hate physical contact with family members and friends?
- Do they prefer not to tell you what happens at day care or school? And if you ask how their day was, do they not answer right away but instead wait for hours before they come to you and relating the events of their day for you?
- Are they silent most of the time rather than chattering like most children, but able to talk a lot about a specific topic they really like?
- Do they refuse to be the center of attention and dislike it when you snap their picture, even on their birthday?
If most of your answers are positive, this is an indication that your child is naturally introverted. There’s no need to stress or get upset; introversion is natural, not an illness, and there are many ways to help them effectively integrate into society.